The best way to avoid this is, simply, be better at knowing how to build her interest in you.
One of the best ways is getting her to qualify herself to you; the more attraction you can build, the more likely she will be looking forward to actually meeting up with you instead of giving you the 21st century brush-off.
The other cause is the loss of what’s called “emotional momentum”.
Like a car running out of gas, you go from speeding along to sputtering to a halt.Leaving with vague promises to “hang out later” or to “talk sometime” won’t help maintain the excitement or emotional connection that you just spent the last X number of minutes/hours building.Wishy-washy texts and voice mails cause her excitement to fade even faster.Similarly, going for long periods of time without contact will cause the momentum to diminish.The more the momentum fades, she stops picturing you as the awesome guy she was really interested in and become just another guy she vaguely remembers giving her number to.
If you want to prevent flakes from happening, you have to keep the ball rolling, and the best way to do this is to know how to use texts and phone calls to your advantage.This means that as a general rule, you want to start the contact as soon as possible after getting her number.A lot of guys will balk at this stage; they don’t want to appear “too eager” or worry about creeping her out.How many times have you been doing well with a woman you’d just met only to have it fizzle out the next day with no warning? You’re shouting impotently into the void, hoping for an answer. It’s incredibly frustrating because it can feel as though it came out of nowhere – you were doing everything right and then suddenly you hit that wall of silence. There’s a difference between a flake out and, say, someone cutting of contact because he or she just plain doesn’t like you.In the moment, everything was amazing; you were flirting back and forth, you got her number and the promise of getting together later. Sudden radio silence – watching a flirtation over OKCupid cut off without warning, or a string of unanswered calls or texts without even the promise of a date in the first place – are not flaking. Maybe they have an irrational hatred of the way you use the oxford comma, who knows?By all rights it should be all systems go for getting a date that weekend. These are signs that, for whatever reason, the person you were talking to just decided that they were no longer interested. Flaking, on the other hand, is a last minute-cancellation of tentative plans; you’re all spruced up, so caught up with excitement for your date with that cute woman you met at the bar last Monday that you’ve shown up twenty minutes early.