April Adamsa 21-year-old senior at the College of Charleston, in South Carolina, where 62 percent of the student body is femalesays almost all her friends who have boyfriends date guys who go to other schools.
Because guys at her college know they have so many choices, they aren't exactly boyfriend material.
"Girls come to this school expecting to wear their pearls and date a Southern gentleman, but they can't find any," Adams explains, because "there are two main types of guys at Cof C: dirty hipsters and fratty dudes," and neither are particularly respectful.
Guys in the RaleighDurhamChapel Hill area of North Carolina are famous for their three-date rule.
Because dudes who live there know there are more single women than single men in the area, "after three dates, when legitimate feelings may start to emerge, guys here are quick to throw out the 'I'm too busy for a relationship' card," says Gabrielle Martino, a 24-year-old outreach specialist at a nonprofit.
The number of eligible guys in her area is so meager, Martino says, that she and a girlfriend realized they'd both dated the same guy and he'd given them the identical lame excuse for breaking things off after three dates: He had "last-minute studying" to do.
That's still not as awful as the date who, after making out with Martino, started kissing another woman while they were still out at a club.
Martino isn't meeting guys at work either: 75 percent of nonprofit employees below the executive level are women, and in her office, there are only 4 guys out of a staff of 34.
She can't remember there being a single guy in her college major, human development and family studies.
Since she's not meeting men through work and she didn't meet any in college, Martino gets set up on blind dates and the unbalanced ratio of women to men strikes again.
"Guys don't feel the need to impress because there are so many other eligible girls," she says.
One suitor harped on his Harry Potter obsession: "He said his wardrobe was very Slytherin.
Bad way to get a girl into you." Martino's not the only one struggling to date in a female-dominated scenario, whether that's a college, profession, or city where women outnumber men.
The gender gap in the college world is particularly pronounced, as nearly 60 percent of American undergraduates are women, and that number is only growing.