And even when you do find the right one, you’ll still have your work cut out for you as you make an effort to maintain your relationship.
Finding the right person to settle down with can often feel like a very frustrating game of chance.
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This pull becomes a destructive compulsion that corrodes the integrity of the relationship.
It replaces respect and compassion with anger and resentment.
It destroys the quality of our lives and over time, the relationship.
This advice impacted the way I approach romantic relationships in that I allowed for a lot more space, which in turn allowed for less reactivity, more peace, happiness, and respect.
Sometimes this means giving something up, but actually most times this means we both get what we want and we both feel very loved, supported, and that we are in each other’s corner.
I don’t feel afraid to be giving, because he really has my best interests at heart.We are a terrific team and often we agree on what we want.And when we don’t, we tend to take turns supporting the other’s wants. Gail Saltz, is a clinical associate professor of psychiatry at New York Presbyterian’s Weill-Cornell Medical College.The classic struggle of all relationships is finding the right calculus in the togetherness-and-autonomy equation.Typically, when a relationship is under stress, one of the partners asks for physical space to break the tension. The best way to incorporate space is by being proactive and providing emotional rather than physical space.To do this, partners need to allow each other the space to be themselves and to have their experiences without trying to control the outcome or think that you are responsible for their lives and reaction.