Once upon a time, online daters were mocked as lonely losers, or worse. Today, at least 40 million Americans are looking for love on the Web. Like sex, love and attraction, online dating is an object of fascination and confusion.
But as I learned at Ok Cupid, men don’t necessarily end up dating young women, even if they think they’re gorgeous.
Men on the site tend to message women closer to their own age; very few men over 30 actually reach out to 20-year-old women.
And while it’s true that being older and single means you face a “thin” romantic market, both on the Web and off, the sheer scale of online dating mitigates this.
After all, the best way to beat long odds is to take lots of chances, and even for older users, dating sites provide millions of romantic options.
It’s an all-too-common trope: Online dating has made casual sex easy but relationships hard.
One somewhat hysterical Vanity Fair article recently claimed that sites like Tinder have brought on a “dating apocalypse,” with young men and women meeting online, getting together for sex, then never talking again.The Guardian warns that these sites have created a “throwaway dating culture.” This is silly.People have always sought out casual sex — flings are key plot points in “Pride and Prejudice” (1813) and “The Fires of Autumn” (1942).One sociologist found that college-age students are having no more sex today than they were in 1988.In fact, online dating has made it easier for those seeking long-term commitments to find each other.Experts say that one-third of recent marriages in the United States started online.