Now what this means is a Christian woman won’t just look for a man who has a cross tattooed on his shoulder, but a man who is ready to die daily in the sacrificial calling of leading a home.
Love as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for her.
Jesus said no one can be his disciple unless they take up their cross and follow him. If you know what you are looking for the way I have tried to describe it, I would think you could rule out a lot of losers by using the Internet.
The Christian man or woman who wants to marry a follower of Jesus must look for a spouse who has learned what it is to die to self in allegiance to Jesus. It won’t take long to learn from Facebook and Twitter and blogs if this man or woman is passionate for Jesus or if Jesus is an incidental mark on the shoulder or a trinket around the neck.
Then, if contact happens there are great questions to ask. I don’t know, Tony, you might want to link to this document.
I think it is at the Desiring God website, 50 questions that couples should ask.
And they can be asked, you know, on the internet before you even meet the kind of things that really reveal what people are committed to. I am fine with meeting someone online and learning as much as possible about them. The great question is: Are you mature enough to discern a worthy spouse?
I have met numerous couples recently who said they met online and they are happily married. Put your energies into becoming that kind of person.
50 Questions to ask before you marry — its on our website, and actually it may be easier to find in the ebook.
Along with these benefits, online dating does raise new dangers: a creep—a violent one, even—may be lurking behind the next click; the process over-represents certain features of a person (facial appearance, for starters); and it requires an investment of funds that perhaps could be better spent elsewhere. These archaic behaviors suited the olden days, but some of them seemed novel even to the generation before mine.
A podcast listener named Nathan writes in to ask: “Is online Christian dating a good way to meet a future spouse if you don’t meet anyone through your church family?
” I say that the biblical issue here is not how you meet, but whom you marry. Let’s just get this clear and then I will circle around to the other.
A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives, but if her husband dies she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. So biblically the bottom line for the follower of Christ is: Will you marry only a believer.